Of Family and Origins
”What is family? They were the people who claimed you. In good, in bad, in parts or in whole, they were the ones who showed up, who stayed in there, regardless. It wasn’t just about blood relations or shared chromosomes, but something wider, bigger. We have many families over time. Our family of origin, the family we created, and the groups you moved through while all of this was happening: friends, lovers, sometimes even strangers. None of them perfect and we couldn’t expect them to be. You can’t make any one person your world. The trick was to take what each could give you and build your world from it.” - Sarah Dessen
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You’ll have your heart broken and you’ll break others’ hearts. You’ll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you’ll cry because time is flying by. So take pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you’ve never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. You just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone’s hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don’t be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.
It seems so right that someone who changed my life so dramatically. And the song is about him, that is so brutally about him and then the record that is about him changed my life as much as he has and now he’s forever gonna have changed my life. And I’m really proud of that now; I’m not bitter about that anymore. I’m proud of him.This is Someone Like You for him.
So this is what weekend means for working people. Now I know :)
Friend-bitch.
I can’t help to notice that there are several states of life that my friends will start to leave me behind and eventually turn to be a friend bitch. Maybe I am being a little selfish and all but yeah, this is what I thought.
1) When they have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
2) When they find themselves better friends, the one with more similarities to them.
3) When they have something that I don’t have.
I love my friends and will always do. And I hope I will remain the same, if I ever encounter any of the situations stated above.
Everything in life is temporary, because everything changes. That’s why it takes great courage to love, knowing it might end anytime but having the faith it will last forever.
Must watch movies for this holiday:
The Iron Lady
The Descendants
Midnight in Paris
Love & Other Drugs
The Help
And the list goes on and on :)
Happy holiday!
I would make you stay.
Sometimes I wished that I can turn the clock around, watching myself grow, make amends with people that I have offended, mending broken things and broken relationships that I loved so much, saying the ‘three words’ to that person I cared about, spending more time with the ones who passed away, and most importantly taking care of myself, through thick and thin. And now I’m just a miserable, depressed old-looking young man with a sick note.
Marilah kita berdoa sempena hari yang mulia. Jangan kita asyik gembira. Insaflah pada yang tiada.
Al-Fatihah untuk ayah, nenek, datuk. Sesungguhnya kami merindu setiap detik bersama. Dengan Syawal, hati lagi sayu.
